I’d like to dedicate this blog to my mum. It’s her birthday today.
I’d also like to explain a bit more about why I am fundraising for MIND. For those that aren’t aware, my mum died a few years ago after struggling with cancer. I don’t like saying “lost her battle” because that implies that cancer won and it didn’t. It stole.
My mum’s name was Frances, she was 52 when she passed away after a second war with breast cancer. She adored Strictly Come Dancing and let me tell you, she would have loved me doing this. In fact, she may have been more excited than me if possible. She actually started my dance passion by taking me to ballet classes when I was young. I didn’t enjoy it and hated the strictness of it all, so I soon left and joined a street dance class instead.
When we were told she was terminally ill, we were given a prognosis of 2-3 years but 3 months later she was gone. When she died, my world fell apart. I struggled, really struggled and eventually turned to MIND for help. I had 1 on 1 counselling with the most amazing lady, who I ended up going back to a few times over the years. She gave me tips on how to pull myself out of my darkest places, helped me set practical goals and gave me a safe place to cry. She taught me the value of looking after myself, which started with something as simple as nail varnish. For those that know me personally, you may notice I always have my nails done, usually bright colours, or glittery, or both if I’m feeling extra fancy, well that’s where it started. It’s all about recognising the need to take time to be kind to yourself. It’s also one of the last things I did for Mum, bright red nails for Christmas.
Everybody’s needs are different so MIND also offers CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), group sessions, peer groups and a helpline, which was answered 76,323 times last year. (Mind Infoline – 0300 123 3393 or text 86463). To provide all of these services just from public funding and donations is quite incredible. To give you an idea, to answer the MIND Infoline and potentially offer a lifeline to someone in desperate need of support, costs £8. To keep their online support community running for just one hour, it costs £21. They really do change lives and their mission is that “no one faces mental health problems alone”. I appreciate money is tight, I really do but I’d urge you to consider that 1 in 4 people are currently suffering with mental health issues. 1 in 4. How many of your colleagues could that be? Or friends or family?
Thanks for reading today. I know it’s not my usual style but sometimes I need to be serious and remind people that behind the sequins and shimmies, I am trying to give back to a charity that saved my life.
Oh and happy birthday Mum x
Donations (however small) can be made here – https://uk.virginmoneygiving.com/RebeccaPooley1